Rocking it Outside your Comfort Zone

Rocking it Outside your Comfort Zone

Life Outside Of Your Comfort Zone: Jenny Hale

July 3, 2017

Welcome back to the Life Outside of Your Comfort Zone Series!

This week I have Jenny Hale on the blog.  

Jenny is a social media and marketing consultant for veteran and military spouse entrepreneurs with military-focused businesses.  Her mission is to help the military community find success in their business passions.

Wow, what an interesting niche you have Jenny, I would love to know more about how you got here! Have you always known you wanted to be an entrepreneur or did it take some soul searching to get there? What did you do before you became an entrepreneur?

 

I started my first venture at 19.  I started out as a local photographer and was able to use my freelancing to support my college education.  It was the perfect career for me and I began to teach other businesses how to re-create their marketing strategies to find success.  I used the marketing skills I learned as an entrepreneur to eventually work in the military non-profit, government, and corporate sector, where I found my dream career. Now I balance both a career and life as a consultant to continue to support the military community I love.

 

My mission on meganseamans.com is to help women reconnect with their authentic self to start living their dream lifestyle, even though taking that initial step outside of their comfort zone might be pretty tricky. Would you say you had to “find yourself” before you dove into your new plan? Did you find yourself starting on this brand new journey and having to learn about yourself along the way?

 

I had to decide what really made me happy. For me, that was helping the military community.  Along the way, I got to discover another community and their traditions, culture, and acronyms!

 

When did your comfort zone show up for you?

 

I am a civilian.  I was not medically qualified to serve in the military (my dream!), but decided to dedicate my life to helping the community in another way instead. However, I had a lot to learn about the military culture and community.  To better understand marketing and the military lifestyle, I took a job with the military as a photojournalist intern after college.  I spent the time living in barracks on a military installation, rappelling down towers, participating in gas chamber training, on the grenade and rifle ranges, and on long land-navigation trainings. The experience solidified that this was the career and community I wanted to work with.  It may have been a bit out of my element, but it was the best experience of my life.

 

Once you landed on your dream business plan did the unknown feel a bit scary? Did you find yourself asking a lot of what if’s or looking into the future a lot more than you should have?

 

Once I found my dream career, I was anything but scared. It felt like I should have been doing consulting forever with the military community (I had been consulting for other business communities for years!). Now that I found my passion, every day is a new adventure. I love how my life has completed changed just from working with an incredible group of people.

 

 

When you did hit road blocks, face challenges or have failures, what was the worst that happened? What did it take to keep you going?

 

 

I re-evaluated how the civilian community markets after working with military-focused companies and was able to find ways to bridge the gap between the way each markets.  The military is very traditional in their marketing tactics, while the civilian community tends to take more risks, market online, and network with other companies.  I help bridge this gap for those within the communities and teach them how to utilize strategies that attract both community members.

 

What is one big, amazing piece of advice you would give to our readers about stepping outside of their comfort zone and really going for the lifestyle that they have always dreamed of?

 

Despite the odds, for me, I had always felt like I would be “on the outside looking in” to the community I loved.  By taking a chance, educating myself on the community, living in it, and dedicating my entire world to making others’ dreams come true, I have not only found myself, but empowered others find success in their own marketing strategies.

 

Boundaries will be there, always. But if it is your passion then you will let the excitement fuel you instead of any fear your comfort zone brings on!

If you loved hearing Jenny’s story and want to see more about what she does within the military community, find her here:

 

Website: www.jennyhale.com

Access her free guide to social media for military community entrepreneurs here.

Join her Facebook group of veteran and military spouse entrepreneurs:  www.facebook.com/groups/militarysocialmediaguru

Twitter: www.twitter.com/JenMilMarketing

Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/themilitarysocialmediaguru

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How Your Lack of Self Love is Keeping You Stuck Inside Your Comfort Zone

June 28, 2017

Self love, it’s a concept that to so many seems so foreign. It can even feel selfish to some. We are taught from a young age that love comes from the external. That we need family and friends to shower us in love, kisses and gratitude to truly feel happy. It feels like we missed the chapter on truly loving ourselves.

Self-love is the secret to manifesting so much that you desire.

The lack of self-love can keep us locked into our comfort zone because all we want is to please others. When in reality we please others to make ourselves happy. But it never feels completely full when you are only striving to make others happy. There’s something missing and you can’t quite put your finger on it. Self-love is what is missing.

You have to come first. And it is so beautiful that you want to serve so many people and bring a smile to their face. But when it comes at expense of your happiness, you really aren’t serving. You cannot pour from an empty glass. And when you are lacking self-love, you become to exhausted to venture out of your comfort zone. You become too obsessed with others happiness and forget about your own.
You cannot control someone else’s feelings. No matter how hard you try.

If someone loves you, they want you to be your best. And they will understand that you need to have a little me time before you come over to cheer them up. They will understand that you need to have a quick yoga class before you help them pack up their house for a move. When someone loves you they want to see you happy too.

And if they get upset that you are not at their call 24/7, you simply cannot control that.

You are holding yourself back by giving love to everyone but yourself. You are comfortable giving away every bit of yourself that you have. The unknown, the giving more to you than to someone else feels scary.

What will happen if suddenly your glass is full? You will not only get more of what you really want, but YOU will feel the happiness and will be able to serve everyone you love in a much BIGGER way!

So if you’ve been lacking in the self-love category and are ready to get more of what you want and give out even more happiness, try out these 5 tips!

1. Journal about yourself

It feels a little weird to talk about yourself right? It feels a bit strange to say what you are good at and what you are proud of within yourself. That’s because we have been conditioned to make sure we celebrate everyone around us. It is outside of our comfort zone to talk about ourselves. Start breaking that boundary in a safe space for you. Journal about it. You don’t have to tell anyone yet, but take some time to love on yourself. The more we get comfortable with giving ourselves love, the more we will want that in our life.

Grab yourself a nice cup of hot tea and sit with what makes your world. Start with these questions:

– What am I really great at?
– What makes me unique?
– What do others love about me?
– What do I love about myself?

2. Start the day for YOU

The morning is such a beautiful time and space for YOU. People don’t necessarily need you first thing in the morning so this is an amazing time to spend on yourself. Take some time to carefully craft a beautiful morning routine that is designed just for you!

It may be just inside your comfort zone to start the morning for your kids or making breakfast for your husband, or hopping on social media and seeing if anyone needs anything. Break that boundary by focusing on you first, then you’ll know what it is like to have a full cup.

What would make your day start out beautifully? Maybe it’s…

– Waking up an hour early to make some coffee and meditate to clear your mind
– Writing out 5 things you are grateful for today
– Waking up to catch the calming sunrise
– Having an exercise session before anyone can snag your attention

Whatever it is, make sure it is for you.

3. Reevaluate your self-care routine

What do you do just for you? Maybe you used to love doing yoga or Pilates. Maybe you loved getting a massage once a month but you just can’t find the time for it. Maybe you got just too comfortable giving that time to someone else.

It’s time to reevaluate when your self-care is. I get it, we’re all busy. But a 30 minute yoga class twice a week can happen. You have nothing but time and time for you has got to start coming first.

4. Do more of what makes you happy

What really brings you joy? Make a list of things that make you really happy and sprinkle those into your week! If it brings you a smile, why wouldn’t you want more of it? Do you love spending some time in nature, start doing Sunday morning walks. Do you love planting flowers, start a garden in your backyard.

The problem isn’t that you don’t have any time for it. The problem is that you are uncomfortable making the time because you could miss out on something. When you are full of joy everyone around you will be happier and you will be able to bring them joy in ways you couldn’t before.

5. Treat yourself & don’t forget to celebrate you

You’ve added all of these wonderful self-care routines and are starting to fill yourself with love. So now you have to remember to celebrate. And guess what, this doesn’t even have to be alone. Tell your girlfriend that you successfully went to three yoga classes this week and you’re really freaking proud of it, so you want to go celebrate with your favorite frozen yogurt. Tell your boyfriend when you hit a milestone in your work life and that you all should have a special date night to celebrate!

Once you have filled yourself with so much self-love it will be so easy to leap outside of your comfort zone and try everything new that you have always wanted. You will allow yourself to have the space for it, because you know how good it feels to do just for you!

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Life Outside Of Your Comfort Zone: Erica Carrico

June 26, 2017

Welcome to the Life Outside of your Comfort Zone Series!

I am so so so excited to be bringing you this brand new interview series with beautiful women entrepreneurs from all different fields. We will be chatting all about what it took for them to step out of their comfort zone and into a life they absolutely love. Fueled by their passions and topped off with the perfect dream business!

I am kicking off the series with one of my good friends Erica Carrico! You all are going to absolutely love her and her journey.

Erica is a soul-fueled Career & Purpose coach and it is her mission and purpose to help awakening souls who feel trapped in the wrong career to move into something they are super passionate about. A career or business that unveils their true purpose and allows them to earn a living doing what they absolutely love – what they were put on earth to do!

Sounds like my jam!!! So, have you always known you wanted to be a girl boss or did it take some soul searching to get there? What did you do before you became an entrepreneur?

Oh my gosh for me it took SO much searching! From the time I was a little girl, I knew I was here for something different – that I wouldn’t have a traditional life. I spent my 20’s wild and free – bouncing around jobs, moving countries, in and out of crazy relationships, and traveling the world. I chose the wrong career and felt completely trapped for about 5 years in the corporate world. I finally made the decision to work with a life coach at 28 and quit my job 3 months later. I was fortunate enough to be able to take a year off to soul search, and ended up backpacking through India, SE Asia, China, and Africa. I realized on that trip I would never go back to the corporate world – that I’m here to help people and really make a difference in the world. So I moved back to Australia, got my Masters in Nonprofit Management, and spent 7 years as a non-profit executive. A career that was absolutely perfect for me!

Doesn’t that sound fantastic?! Talk about stepping into your full potential and going after what you love…

My mission on meganseamans.com is to help women reconnect with their authentic self to start living their dream lifestyle, even though taking that initial step outside of their comfort zone might be pretty tricky. Would you say you had to “find yourself” before you dove into your new plan? Did you find yourself starting on this brand new journey and having to learn about yourself along the way?

I would say for me, I really had to find myself before starting my entrepreneurial journey, but the journey of finding myself was a long one and took me all over the world. It was scary, exciting, adventurous, beautiful, enlightening, terrifying, magical, soulful, full of super highs and intense lows and just an overall amazing period of growth. I was living my dreams. Finding myself and connecting with my soul, the universe, my purpose, all led me to an intuitive knowing that this is what I’m supposed to be doing with my life now. Of course I believe we are always learning about ourselves and that it’s a lifelong journey. And since being an entrepreneur is still pretty new to me, I’m continuing to learn so much about myself every single day and pushing myself out of my comfort zone ALL THE TIME.

When did your comfort zone show up for you?

I’m a private person, an introvert, and I’m not one to talk much about myself. I guess that’s one of the things that makes me perfectly suited to coaching – I love (and prefer) to listen to someone else! So starting my own business was absolutely terrifying because I knew I was going to have to not only put myself out there, but actually promote myself, have a website with my face splashed all over it, reveal vulnerable things about myself, and talk about my story and who I am. I’ve had to fight past all kinds of limits and boundaries I’ve set for myself in the past. I overcome them (as they show up) by having a regular spiritual practice – essentially connecting with myself and the divine (universe, God, whatever terminology you prefer to use) through meditation, mindful thinking, clearing any negative thoughts, energy healing, learning to work with fear rather than letting it paralyze me, finding mentors to follow, and honestly, I’ve worked with 2 coaches in the past year and that has really helped me break through my mindset blocks and keep me moving forward.

Once you landed on your dream business plan did the unknown feel a bit scary? Did you find yourself asking a lot of what if’s or looking into the future a lot more than you should have? 

Yes yes and yes! I was 100% terrified. In fact, I actually procrastinated launching my website for about 2 months because I was so scared of the unknown. I was totally “future tripping” where I was playing out all these scenarios in my mind, none of which actually came true, about people not being receptive, what was my family going to think, are people going to look at me differently, will I actually be able to make money, am I really qualified to do all of this. It’s perfectly normal for all of these feelings to come up, so I worked to clear these thoughts from my mind, closed my eyes, hit the “publish” button on my website – and now looking back I can’t believe I was so afraid! We always make things so much worse in our minds then they ever really are.

Did you run into any road bumps along the way or have to encounter any particular fears that you would like to share?

We will always hit road bumps, but that’s just part of life. We learn from them, take the lesson we’re supposed to take, and move on a wiser and more enlightened being!

When you did hit road blocks, face challenges or have failures, what was the worst that happened? What did it take to keep you going?

We are always hardest on ourselves, and criticize ourselves more than anyone else would. Failing is really hard for me. When I was little, if I failed or wasn’t perfect at something, I just thought it wasn’t meant to be and I was afraid to try again. It’s taken me a lot of work and learning to understand that failing (or not being perfect) at something isn’t the end of the world, and it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be doing what you’re doing, it just means you need to do something different – and try again. Consistent, baby steps are what kept me going, and when I was feeling overwhelmed, I spent time in meditation, reconnected with my heart and soul, and remembered why I’m doing this – I remembered why I’m here.

What is one big, amazing piece of advice you would give to our readers about stepping outside of their comfort zone and really going for the lifestyle that they have always dreamed of?

Always remember you deserve to live your dreams AND you absolutely have what it takes to do anything and everything you want to do in this life. The only thing that will hold you back, is yourself. Whenever you get stuck, remember this: you can either remain where it’s comfortable, the path you’ve been traveling down, and your life will stay the same. Your dreams will probably remain dreams. Or you can choose to jump – take the leap – and choose the road less traveled. If you want something to happen, if you want to change the direction of your life, you’re going to have to do something different. Make a new choice and act on it. Pursue your new outcome, pursue your dream.

WOW! You guys, we all start somewhere and finding your way through your own journey is exciting and scary at the same time. And you always have the choice… remain where you are safe and comfortable or take the leap!

If you totally loved Erica’s words and light, you can find her right over here:

Website: www.ericacarrico.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/ericalcarrico

Instagram: www.instagram.com/ericalynncarrico

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Why Are We Given More Than We Can Handle? (And How To Get Through It!)

June 11, 2017

You know those weeks when you just feel like you’ve been dealt a shitty hand? Those days when you keep thinking okay, “enough is enough.” You have to ask yourself, “why me?” Over and over again, while you grab the next carton of Oreo ice cream and press “Yes I Am Still Watching on Netflix once again.” When you feel like you’ve fallen into the black hole of emotion and you cannot pull yourself out?

Confession: we’ve all been there.

You are not alone. Life happens, like a lot, and we feel like we cannot pull ourselves out of it.

So why does this happen to us? Why does life deal us these crappy hands and give us all of this STUFF we can’t handle?!

FACT: You are never given more than you can handle.

You have just allowed yourself to believe that it is more than you can handle.

We feed ourselves these stories and beliefs about what it is exactly we can handle. And we get super cozy with those beliefs. We tell ourselves we can handle 30 doses of trauma in one month and that’s it… no more universe! We allow ourselves to spiral into the black hole of no return of negative emotion. But why?! Negative emotion takes just as much energy as a positive emotion. But it’s easier for us to buy into the story. Because it’s comfortable, it’s safe, it’s what we are used to.

We are human and we like to suffer.

It’s true. It’s easy for us, it keeps us nice and safe and guarded. Of course, no one would openly admit that they enjoy suffering. It’s just there, it became a part of us some time. When we suffer in our own pain or our state of fear, there are many payouts. We don’t have to face heavy emotions head on, we don’t have to try to come up with a solution, we won’t feel selfish for being happy when others are down, we don’t have to forgive or apologize. There are so many payouts for wallowing in our suffering. And then, at the end of the day, we wonder why we are so sad and why we have been handed too much.

Pain – is going to come. It is a part of life, we all go through it. Some much worse than others. Pain will come and go. But the thing is – we always have a choice.

Truth bomb: You are exactly where you are supposed to be right now. And your happiness is up to absolutely no one or nothing around you.

So the next time life gives you almost “more than you can handle” try these life hacks:

Positive Mind = Positive Life
It’s the simple law of attraction. You think positive, you grow positively. It makes sense why we seem to drown in a bad day so easily. We are exuding negative energy so we get a negative input. The next time your day is taking a turn, think of three things you’re grateful for and sit with them. You can’t be grateful + frustrated at the same time.

Remember that you run this show
The next time you feel like you are falling remember that there is no power greater than your own mind. Your thoughts and your emotions are run by none other than the great and amazing YOU. One switch of the control panel and it’s happy jams for the rest of the day.

What is the lesson?
“Grow through what you go through.” Listen I get it. I know how easy it is to fall. I have been in the pits and I have seen rock bottom AND I have pulled out of it. Because it is not where the cool kids hang. Every single thing you go through holds a valuable lesson for you. You have the choice to let each situation pull you under or lift you up. Learn and scoot on.

Get uncomfortable
Yes. It’s comfy down here in the hole of emotions. We can cry and eat cake and have our own personal pity party. And you know what… I am all for crying it out! Do it. But the hard part is, putting your big girl pants on and getting up and on with life. It is uncomfortable to let it all go. We become the emotion. The blob that once was a beautiful human, is now the hot mess express on the couch in her sweats that can’t stop crying. And we are way too okay with that.

Get out of bed. Put your pretty lipstick on. Comb your hair. Smile uncomfortably big until you believe it. Paint yourself with positivity every single day. And when life comes at you again, get uncomfortable with being okay with it all over again. Until that feeling, that happy girl feeling, is the easy part for you.

You deserve the world girl. No more or less than I do. You deserve it all, you really do. 

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How To Get Really Freaking Committed!

May 1, 2017

So you want to get out of your comfort zone but you find yourself having trouble committing to it? You want so badly to step into your purpose, your passion, doing more of what you really love. But you find yourself stuck at the beginning step. And then you give up before it ever even began. You tell yourself maybe you weren’t meant for that special life or maybe it wasn’t time, you’ll do it tomorrow..

WRONG.

Maybe the problem is that you can’t commit. You can’t commit to the plan that will bring you the desired results.

I get it, commitment is hard. Most of us have been burned by this one way or another. Whether it was in a relationship, a friendship or even from a childhood memory. Commitment can be an easy area to have road blocks in.

For me it was easy to not commit because I knew that I was protecting myself from any and all potential harm that could come from the situation. Only problem was by doing this it escalated to me not even wanting to go out to eat alone, or going to the gym alone because I had to calculate all of the potential dangers that could come out of it and then I wouldn’t go. And I’m here to tell you that those were total CRAP.

By eliminating all of the risk-taking situations (and even some situations that weren’t even risky, but I made them out to be in some way) I was living in a safe zone and missing out on SO MUCH. I had to change the story. I had to really commit.

So here I am, sipping coffee in a place that I never thought I would call home, with people I never would have known had I stayed put, living a life that is so far out of my comfort zone that you wouldn’t even believe it!

All because I committed.

So how do you do it? How do you commit even with commitment issues. How do you really freaking commit?!

Stop buying into the story

Quit letting your mind trick you out. I’m gonna get blunt with you here real quick. Shitty things happen to everyone. EVERYONE. Shitty things happen to good people. Shitty things happen to exceptional people. Shitty things happen to shitty people. SHIT HAPPENS. Get it?! So quit buying into this story that happened to you like you were the only one in the world that had something scar them. This only fires me up so much because I was doing it. I was buying into this pain that I was handed and allowing it to dictate my decisions. When this fear, this pain has absolutely no business dictating our decisions. Allow yourself to feel it, quit burying it for a time you need it to save you. Feel it, accept it, and move on from it. Commit to your new journey, not your past one.

Speaking of the feelings….

I’m not going to tell you that this journey outside of your comfort zone will be all daisies and cupcakes. You might actually feel a little uncomfortable at first… shocking. And you might fail once, twice, maybe even ten times. Allow yourself to feel those feelings don’t run away from them. Know what it feels like to have some discomfort, know what it feels like to fail. But what you need to know even more than those feelings is what it feels like to get back up and keep going. What it feels like to work past the discomfort. What it feels like to own the situation. And that is when you will realize that your comfort zone was really not that comfortable after all. And from there, committing to the new, the unknown will be so much more fun!

Action time!

Time to get serious with this commitment! It’s time to take action and commit to it. Make a plan. Whatever plan creation method is your jam, go for it. Do you like making lists? Do it. Do you like journaling it out? Do it. Do you like having a color coded agenda? Do it. Figure out the steps you need to break down your big picture goal and put them out there somewhere.

Accountability

You have to have some self-accountability in all of this, you just have to. And once you own your story and starting living here and now instead of in the past burrows of our mind you will learn how responsible you really are for your life and actions. Try out my positive affirmations here to start shifting your mindset too! Self-accountability is absolutely a key in committing but having a buddy too can really light things on fire! When someone else knows what you’re going for, as humans, we do not want to let them down. So find a friend, family member, or I know a great coach 😉 that can really help hold your head up even when things get rough!

When you start to get out of your complacent life, you can really start to commit. And when you commit, you will see the changes occur. You will begin to slip into your life that you always dreamed of.

Need a little accountability? Book in a free discovery session with me! Let’s dive even deeper into your comfort zone!

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Dating Outside of your Comfort Zone to Find the One

April 12, 2017

So you want to find the one. Finding “the one” is so many people’s dream in this world. Finding that big love, your soulmate, the one, your perfect partner. People search for it, they try and fail and then try again. We are so entranced by this idea of finding love that we scoop it up every chance we get. We aren’t watching for patterns and if we are then we are just being negative and telling ourselves things like, “this is all I am worthy or all I deserve.” You are just so focused on finding love, when in fact you really don’t even know what you’re looking for.

Have you ever found yourself saying things like:

I just keep going after the same guy.

Or

I don’t understand why I keep attracting all these a**holes?!

Or

Just found yourself becoming comfortable in a relationship and not truly happy.

It’s time for you to start looking for the one outside of your comfort zone! You have been telling yourself the same story for years, “this is what I deserve in a relationship and this is the kind of guy that I am going to be stuck with.” Maybe you aren’t wording it exactly in that way, but you know that you feel like Mr. Right isn’t even out there, that he doesn’t exist.

You’re just comfortable. You’re comfortable with where you have always been, you’re comfortable because you have set up limits for yourself and decided that is where you will stay. The truth is, you haven’t even really tried. You haven’t tried to look for something new, or if you have, you just end up back where you started. You haven’t done the work to find someone who is out of your comfort zone. If you want something magical you have to put in the work to have it.

So here it is, this is your wake up call, your guidebook to manifesting the man of your dreams, the love of your life, your soul mate. Here are 5 steps to finding love outside of your comfort zone.

1. Start with you!
You are the foundation, you are the pillar in this relationship and if you don’t get the you work done first. You don’t get really clear on what you do deserve and who you are, then how would you expect to bring someone else in. How can someone else love you, if you don’t even love you? Decide what you need to work on with you before you start diving into someone else’s life, because the reality is when we dive into a relationship before we have worked on ourselves we end up projecting our issues onto the other person. Then suddenly this other human has all of these problems that you didn’t see in the beginning.

2. What the heck is love?

You need to define love for yourself. What does it feel like, look like, sound like? What is important about it? How do you think you will find a relationship full of love if you have a construed vision of it? You have to have the foundations to the house before you lay the concrete or else it will all collapse. This is not a race, your soulmate will be there waiting for you, when you are ready.

3. Let go.

What are you holding onto from your past relationships? Think about romantic, friendships, and even those relationships with our family. What are you still holding onto from these? Is there any pain that you haven’t yet acknowledged? You can’t just ignore this pain and hope that it will go away. Acknowledge this burden you are holding, write a letter to your pain or even the person who was a part of the pain and let everything out. After you write this letter, destroy it. Yep, burn it, shred it, toss it, let it go. Physically release the pain.

4. Manifest what you really deserve

What do you really want? Like you really, really, really want. Write down everything that you want in a soulmate. Now I’m not saying pull out your list on the first date and see if he meets the criteria. Just make it really really clear on what it is you want. This is what you deserve. Once you make it clear to yourself, you will start to notice easier when something is not quite right in the beginning. And your ideal man/woman might just appear in front of you 🙂

Here are a few questions to get you started: How do you want to feel every day? What do you want your favorite activities to be? What do you want him to treat you like?

5. Go for it

Part of our comfort zone in dating is not going for it! Three years ago, if I didn’t just go for it… I wouldn’t be with my soul mate today. I took a risk, because I knew something was right. I had met my wonderful man 4 years prior to dating him in a freshman biology class… I would have never thought we would end up together. But something in my heart told me it was right and I went for it, life would not be the same now if I didn’t try. Stop looking in all of the same places and start expanding your choices, you never know, your “one” could be right under your nose.

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I Am A Misfit

March 8, 2017

For years I thought I didn’t fit in, but I still went with the flow.
I had all these unanswered questions about life, ever since I can remember.

I remember being 8 years old and sitting in class, wondering, isn’t there more? I don’t really want to learn about multiplication I want to learn about life and where earth came from.

But I kept quiet and did what I was supposed to.

I remember at one-point band was so cool… until it wasn’t. And I better not let anyone know that my creativity was important to me or else I may be alone in this weird world.

I remember in my first taste of spirituality at 15 years old, I was shunned for asking too many questions.

I never felt like I fit in, so I made myself fit in. When all my friends would go out partying and I would think… okay but I just kind of want to sit inside? I would think something was wrong with me and I better not say that out loud. Gosh, if anyone knew I was such a weirdo, I may not have any friends!

I sat in college course rooms wondering, is this it?! Am I going to study these mediocre classes + some random electives that my university saw fit… get a job and then die?! But this is what I am “supposed to do.”

This is no one’s fault but my own. I gave into the societal norms and was placed into social groups from the time I was 8 and thought, okay better just go with all of this.

I was always in my own head, but I wouldn’t dare tell anyone this because what if that was wrong?

I was a misfit. Until I changed my mind.

I can’t place my finger on it; but there was a time, a moment if you will, that I decided I would fit in no more. There is more to this life and bring it at me. And if I want to sit on my couch and read or write rather than go out to a party, that is so okay. I am me, the only one and I only get to do me once. So let’s do it. Let’s do what we feel is right rather than what we are told is right.

Happiness Rocking it Outside your Comfort Zone

How to Stop Doubting Yourself!

February 16, 2017

You know when you’re working on something new, something beautiful and that little voice in your head pops in to say, “you’re not good enough for this.” Or maybe they’re a little trickier… maybe your voice says something in the form of distraction that’s “more important than whatever you are working on” to avoid those feelings.

That is our old friend self-doubt. Self-doubt is one of those friends who came to the party but wasn’t invited. She hangs around whenever something new and great is coming up for us to honestly just be a mean b****.

Whatever you do… don’t confuse self-doubt with actual uncertainty in what you are doing. In reality this is just our ego warning us of what could possibly go wrong in the situation. It’s just fear wearing another one of her masks.

Don’t avoid it. Avoiding your self-doubt is ultimately just pushing off your task more. It’s time to face it, totally head on!

But how…
Realize the present moment


When self-doubt kicks in so does some solid future tripping. You’re doubting yourself because of what is to come. But what if you realized that hasn’t even happened yet? Slow down. Live now and deal later. Don’t spend your time making up outcomes when the action hasn’t occurred yet. Instead of asking what if, ask why not?

Surround yourself with positivity


For me it’s quotes, mantras and some solid 30 second dance breaks. For you it may be music, reading or a cup of tea with a friend. Whatever you get your positive on with… when you feel the self-doubt coming on, bring it out.

Connect


Who are you spending time with? When self-doubt comes up do you have a tribe to go to? If you do… good, then utilize that and connect when you need to. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you don’t, how can you connect to a helpful network? Maybe find a new local meditation class or a new meet up group? Maybe start your own! Your options are endless!

Take a break


When’s the last time you had one….. I’m waiting…..

Step away. Breath. Come back to the situation in new eyes.

You deserve all of this and more. You go Glenn Coco… movie reference anyone?

I know if you are doubting yourself, it will pass if you let it. Sending lots of love your way!

Happiness Rocking it Outside your Comfort Zone

Make 2017 Your Best Year

December 26, 2016

It’s everyone’s goal right?? To make the BEST year yet! So is there a secret formula to this?? Is there a magic, ‘I’ll snap my fingers and this will happen experience’… If anyone knows of something like this, can you please pass it on??

But you can create your perfect year if you set your mind to it. Here’s the top five steps to create your flawless year!

1 Set your goals high
Dig in deep and dream big. Write down everything you want to happen in this brand new year. No dream is too big; if you want it, you can make it happen. Define what you want to accomplish and break it down so you know where to begin.

2 Bring a lot of sunshine  
Time to define what makes you happy, what brings the sunshine? Get clear on what you need to bring to your life to create happiness every single day.

3 Fill your year with love
Start asking  yourself the question, what would love do? Start your 2017 days with so much love and gratitude!

4 What are you going to do for you?
Sometimes we get so caught up with how we are going to create this amazing year and we forget all about ourselves. When are you going to set aside some ‘you’ time? Whether it be a new meditation routine in the mornings or a new workout class every week or even a spa trip once a month. How will you take care of you this year?

5 Get ready for some change
How are you going to start jumping out of your comfort zone this year? It’s time to stop living for everyone else and start living for you. How we get there might feel a little uncomfortable at first, and that is totally okay.
Get ready this year to try some new things, rock some new goals and leave your comfort zone at home… where it belongs!

meganseamans.com

Chasing Dreams and Making Goals Rocking it Outside your Comfort Zone

Top Tips From My Monthly Meet-up: Expanding Your Network

November 21, 2016

If you’ve been keeping up with my Comfort Zone Project, you saw that I took a big step for myself and hosted an event for women in business. Well, I’ve actually taken it up a notch and I host this same event every month. I invite women in business, this particular meet up is focused toward women in direct sales because that is my other business I operate!

Sounds great right, but what’s it to ya if you’re half way around the world right?!

Well, I have decided to extend a virtual invite to you by posting the best of what we discussed at our meetings!

Don’t ya just love the internet?! Woo for technology!

So without further ado; enjoy tips from meeting one!
Something that I get asked a lot and is a hot topic in any business is, how do you grow your network?
This is obviously a very important topic in business for many reasons!

– No one wants to be the nag, no one wants to be the sales person that wears out their friends and family for sales!
– Your friends and family aren’t made of money… well maybe they are, but a good business is going to run on more than just a close circle of customers. You want to constantly be bringing in new customers or clients, while maintaining your current base.
– It’s fun! Maybe I’m just the crazy lady here, but I think it’s fun to gain new customers and clients! I think it’s fun to introduce something you’re passionate about to a new person!
And the list could go on and on! So how do you gain these new people and are they out there?
Of course they are out there! This sounds kind of silly but I honestly had this fear when I started my business that I would run out of people to market to. It’s not going to happen!
Do you know how many people there are in this world?! It’s absurd how many people you can really connect with.. actually pretty overwhelming for an introvert like myself! But trust me, you are not going to hit a dead end on connections and if you do that’s when the next part comes in!

So that burning question, how do I make new connections?!

 

It’s simple really, you’re just not looking at it from the right angle. You have to find your sweet spot, your secret sauce, your zone of genius. And that is where you will find your new connections. There are so many trainings to drown in and so many methods to learn but at the end of the day it’s about taking what you’ve learned and applying it to you. What will work for you? Try and fail over and over again until you succeed.

 

Some tips for you:
– Think about your past experience, how can you translate that into a new method?
– How can you get creative on a worn out method?
– What are you really, really good at? And how can you translate that into finding results?
– What have you not tried?

Thinking outside of the box is key to expanding your network, once you start getting creative the results will follow!

meganseamans.com

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