So you want to find the one. Finding “the one” is so many people\u2019s dream in this world. Finding that big love, your soulmate, the one, your perfect partner. People search for it, they try and fail and then try again. We are so entranced by this idea of finding love that we scoop it up every chance we get. We aren\u2019t watching for patterns and if we are then we are just being negative and telling ourselves things like, \u201cthis is all I am worthy or all I deserve.\u201d You are just so focused on finding love, when in fact you really don\u2019t even know what you\u2019re looking for.<\/p>\n
Have you ever found yourself saying things like:<\/p>\n
I just keep going after the same guy.<\/p>\n
Or<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t understand why I keep attracting all these a**holes?!<\/p>\n
Or<\/p>\n
Just found yourself becoming comfortable in a relationship and not truly happy.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s time for you to start looking for the one outside of your comfort zone! You have been telling yourself the same story for years, \u201cthis is what I deserve in a relationship and this is the kind of guy that I am going to be stuck with.\u201d Maybe you aren\u2019t wording it exactly in that way, but you know that you feel like Mr. Right isn\u2019t even out there, that he doesn\u2019t exist.<\/p>\n
You\u2019re just comfortable. You\u2019re comfortable with where you have always been, you\u2019re comfortable because you have set up limits for yourself and decided that is where you will stay. The truth is, you haven\u2019t even really tried. You haven\u2019t tried to look for something new, or if you have, you just end up back where you started. You haven\u2019t done the work to find someone who is out of your comfort zone. If you want something magical you have to put in the work to have it.<\/p>\n
So here it is, this is your wake up call, your guidebook to manifesting the man of your dreams, the love of your life, your soul mate. Here are 5 steps to finding love outside of your comfort zone.<\/p>\n
1. Start with you!<\/strong> 2. What the heck is love?<\/strong><\/p>\n You need to define love for yourself. What does it feel like, look like, sound like? What is important about it? How do you think you will find a relationship full of love if you have a construed vision of it? You have to have the foundations to the house before you lay the concrete or else it will all collapse. This is not a race, your soulmate will be there waiting for you, when you are ready.<\/p>\n 3. Let go.<\/strong><\/p>\n What are you holding onto from your past relationships? Think about romantic, friendships, and even those relationships with our family. What are you still holding onto from these? Is there any pain that you haven\u2019t yet acknowledged? You can\u2019t just ignore this pain and hope that it will go away. Acknowledge this burden you are holding, write a letter to your pain or even the person who was a part of the pain and let everything out. After you write this letter, destroy it. Yep, burn it, shred it, toss it, let it go. Physically release the pain.<\/p>\n 4. Manifest what you really deserve<\/strong><\/p>\n What do you really want? Like you really, really, really want. Write down everything that you want in a soulmate. Now I\u2019m not saying pull out your list on the first date and see if he meets the criteria. Just make it really really clear on what it is you want. This is what you deserve. Once you make it clear to yourself, you will start to notice easier when something is not quite right in the beginning. And your ideal man\/woman might just appear in front of you \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n Here are a few questions to get you started: How do you want to feel every day? What do you want your favorite activities to be? What do you want him to treat you like?<\/p>\n 5. Go for it<\/strong><\/p>\n Part of our comfort zone in dating is not going for it! Three years ago, if I didn\u2019t just go for it\u2026 I wouldn\u2019t be with my soul mate today. I took a risk, because I knew something was right. I had met my wonderful man 4 years prior to dating him in a freshman biology class\u2026 I would have never thought we would end up together. But something in my heart told me it was right and I went for it, life would not be the same now if I didn\u2019t try. Stop looking in all of the same places and start expanding your choices, you never know, your \u201cone\u201d could be right under your nose.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" So you want to find the one. Finding “the one” is so many people\u2019s dream in this world. Finding that big love, your soulmate, the one, your perfect partner. People search for it, they try and fail and then try again. We are so entranced by this idea of finding love that we scoop it […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":595,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-593","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-rocking-it-outside-your-comfort-zone"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nYou are the foundation, you are the pillar in this relationship and if you don\u2019t get the you work done first. You don\u2019t get really clear on what you do deserve and who you are, then how would you expect to bring someone else in. How can someone else love you, if you don\u2019t even love you? Decide what you need to work on with you before you start diving into someone else\u2019s life, because the reality is when we dive into a relationship before we have worked on ourselves we end up projecting our issues onto the other person. Then suddenly this other human has all of these problems that you didn\u2019t see in the beginning.<\/p>\n