{"id":609,"date":"2017-05-08T09:30:23","date_gmt":"2017-05-08T13:30:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.meganseamans.com\/staging\/6634\/?p=609"},"modified":"2017-05-07T09:37:04","modified_gmt":"2017-05-07T13:37:04","slug":"people-pleasing-not-serving","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.meganseamans.com\/staging\/6634\/people-pleasing-not-serving\/","title":{"rendered":"People Pleasing \u2013 It is Not Serving You"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>People pleasing might be keeping you inside your comfort zone. Over and over I hear people wanting to get out of their comfort zone but what\u2019s stopping them is fear of letting someone else down in some way. Do you find yourself saying things like\u2026<br \/>\n<strong>\u201cI would feel bad if\u2026\u201d <\/strong><br \/>\n<strong> \u201cWhat is he\/she gets upset with me if I\u2026.\u201d<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong> \u201cI feel like I would be letting (insert important person\u2019s name here) down, if\u2026.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>And the list goes on and on. You\u2019re sacrificing valuable time that you will never get back to make someone else happy before yourself.<\/p>\n<p>And that is the key here,<strong> you are putting others before yourself<\/strong>. How would you ever expect to leave what\u2019s comfortable if you can\u2019t even put yourself first? Somewhere along the road you were taught that others go first. That if you serve others with everything you have, then you will be happy.<\/p>\n<p>And maybe you weren\u2019t taught this on purpose. Maybe you had really generous parents and you thought to be happy you had to be just as generous or more than them. Maybe when you were little you always got rewarded for doing something good for someone else and so you attribute other\u2019s happiness with your own. This pattern can come from all sorts of different places.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But it is now holding you in comfort. Your own self-care comes last, after other\u2019s plans. You don\u2019t make any big moves, because you might let someone down.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>People pleasing is a self-satisfying practice.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s amazing that you have such a big heart and that you want to help serve everyone that you can, but when it comes at the expense of yourself and your own needs, you are no longer serving.<\/p>\n<p>How is people pleasing self-serving? You are doing something for someone else to make yourself feel better. You are doing something for someone else to avoid the guilt of not doing it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You cannot affect how someone else feels. No matter how many nice, amazing things you do for them. 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